Intuition
Somewhere along the way, our attention shifted.
We became so busy following the noise around us that we forgot to check in with ourselves.
We all have an inner compass
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You can see it so clearly in kids. They know when something feels safe and when something doesn’t feel right. They follow what fascinates them and move towards things without needing a perfectly logical reason why.​
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That quiet knowing doesn’t disappear when we grow up. Life just gets a whole lot louder — other people’s opinions, expectations, advice, fear of getting it wrong, wanting to fit in, and all the little messages we’ve picked up about what we should be doing.
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After a while, it can get pretty hard to tell the difference between what you actually feel and what you’ve been taught to think.
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Your inner compass is still there.​ You might just need to turn some of the other stuff down to hear it again.
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The voices get louder
As we grow up, more people get a say - parents, teachers, friends, partners, bosses, social media, society. Everyone seems to have an opinion about what we should do, who we should be and what a “good” life is supposed to look like.
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Most of those voices aren’t trying to lead us away from ourselves. They’re speaking from their own experiences, fears and ideas about what’s best. But hear them often enough, and they can become louder than our own.
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We get really good at knowing what everyone else wants — what keeps the peace, makes people proud and looks sensible on paper.​
Then someone asks:
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“But what do you want?”
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…and all of a sudden it’s a much harder question to answer.
Your inner compass
Think about how often we ask other people what they think before we ask ourselves.
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Should I take the job? Should I leave? Should I say something? Am I overreacting? Do you think this is a good idea?
Getting advice isn’t a bad thing. Other people can see things we can’t and sometimes we genuinely need another perspective.
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The problem comes when everyone else gets a vote before we’ve even checked what we think.
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That’s where intuition comes back in.
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Intuition is another piece of information worth listening to - the quiet knowing, the feeling that something is off, what keeps pulling at you, what you’re excited by, what you keep talking yourself out of.
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Before you ask everyone else, ask yourself.
Getting to know your own voice
The more you know yourself, the easier it becomes to recognise what actually belongs to you.
That doesn’t mean every feeling is intuition or that your first thought is always right.
Fear, old beliefs, expectations and other people’s opinions can all be pretty convincing too.
It’s why knowing yourself matters.
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The more familiar you become with your own patterns, values, wants and reactions, the easier it becomes to notice when something feels genuinely like you - and when you’re talking yourself into something because you think you should.
Advice can point you in a direction.
You’re still the one who has to live the life it leads to.
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